Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” What he didn’t say is that most of those other people are themselves taken by somebody else.
Oh sure, we all know we’re unique, and we can give examples to prove it. But how much of what we do and say and even think is really our own and how much are we just regurgitating and even living the thoughts, opinions and beliefs of others – our parents, teachers, peers, colleagues or even those of the news media and wider culture?
How much are you living in a world of “supposed to”?
Of course sometimes it makes sense to take advice, so long as you’re still following your own star.
Can you imagine what your life would be like though, if you didn’t care about what anyone else thought?
What would you do? What would you think and say? Would you write and publish your thoughts? Would you start a new business? Would you change careers? Would you study, play an instrument; spend your money on frivolous things, go and live in an ashram?
You can do all of these things and more, but if you need others to approve, you won’t have much of a bucket list.